*There might be some mild spoilers about the movie in this post.
I don't think my life will ever be the same after watching Her. On a more superficial note, the movie looks and feels great. It is shot beautifully, the script is extremely well written, the acting is top-notch, and the soundtrack in involving. But Her can't be dissected and analyzed like that. Her is a true gestalt movie. It is far more than the sum of its parts.
The first thing I'd like to say about her is that no matter how far into the future it is set in, it is a movie about real people who deal with real problems. The correlations that can be drawn to movies like Lost in Translation are endless. There is no exaggeration, no crazy out of this world concepts. The first time you see a shot of Theodore walking through the streets in LA and everyone is talking to themselves on their phones, engulfed by some alternate reality other than their own, you realize that the world they live in is not much different than our own. Technology and its vices has made us walking zombies. It's so weird how something that is supposed to make us so connected can in many ways make us more distant from each other than we have ever been. Her makes you wonder about how technology has affected our lifestyle. It makes you wonder at the fact that in the future our lives will very likely be intrinsically connected with technology.
The main question I keep asking myself after watching the movie is: can technology replace the human need for social interaction and thus create real emotions? I'm still not sure. My understanding of love is that it is an extremely personal and intricate feeling that you share with someone. Love is so subjective though. If Theodore is in love with the operating system on his computer and phone who are we to judge him and to say that what he is feeling isn't real. Love has and will become a commodity. People want something quick and easy, while deep down they close themselves and shelter their true emotions. When you open yourself to love someone you also ultimately open yourself up to pain. In the modern world, where you can use technology as a buffer to shelter your feelings and keep you from experiencing pain I believe that lots of people have slowly begun to close themselves. I want to live a life worth living. I know it may be tough at times, but in the end I want to be able to say, "it was all worth it".
This is one of the lines from the movie that really struck a chord with me. A lot of us define ourselves by our past, but if you think about it, the past really is just a story that we tell ourselves. The past are just memories, chemical signals in our brains that makes us recall moments and feelings. It doesn't have to define who we are or what we do at this exact moment. We have the power to think freely and not let ourselves be defined by whatever has happened in the past.
This past week, a documentary was released called Her: Love In The Modern Age. This short movie captures how some of Spike Jonze's close friends reacted to the movie as they reflected upon their own relationships. It delves deep into a question we all ask ourselves at least once in hour lives: what is love. There are some really thought provoking responses in this documentary that make it really worth watching.
These are just a few of my thoughts that I felt I had to share on Her. I'm sure I will continue thinking about this movie for many weeks to come, but I just had to put some of my thoughts down on paper. After watching the movie, have I been able to narrow down what my personal definition of love is? Yes.
So what is love?
I'm still not completely sure but I think Aristotle had the right idea.